In my distant "Soviet" childhood, there was a story in the reading textbook titled "Blue Leaves." It tells the tale of a girl who colored the leaves of trees with a blue crayon during an art lesson. When the teacher asked why she chose blue, she revealed that she didn't have a green crayon. When she asked a friend to borrow one, the friend imposed so many conditions that the desire to borrow vanished entirely. I remember the teacher's final words: "One must give in such a way that it can be taken!"

Reflecting on this, I pondered whether we adults have truly learned this lesson. As someone who considers herself a Christian, how do I relate to those in need of my help? More importantly, how do I view those I wish to assist?

Unexpectedly, I realized that in the act of doing good, I sometimes develop a sense of internal superiority. I begin to look at the person I am helping from a position of power, as if they are a dependent. For instance, when a friend asked me for money to buy a washing machine, I quickly formed an opinion about which machine she needed. I started giving her advice on model selection, pushing my views onto her. When I sensed she wasn’t listening, I felt offended.

This dynamic reveals a troubling truth: I elevate myself above the person I am helping, as if I gain authority over them. In doing so, I inadvertently diminish their worth. I try to control the situation, expecting them to listen to me, or rather, to obey me.

The washing machine incident is just one example. There are countless more significant situations where we help others—whether it’s assisting someone in finding a job, a doctor, or even a life partner. In these instances, the urge to guide or manage often surfaces.

Perhaps this is why the Lord commanded us to forget our good deeds, saying, "When you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing." We are called to give without expecting anything in return, without waiting for rewards. This helps us avoid the pitfalls of pride and the illusion of power over others. What if God reminded us of all His blessings toward us?

Moreover, if we were to tally how much we owe our parents for everything they have invested in us, it would be overwhelming. The burden of such a "debt" can be daunting.

God has foreseen all of this and warned us. It is essential to do good for our neighbors as Christ Himself would. To serve even the least of these for Christ's sake, and to give in a manner that allows others to receive freely, without conditions.

Ultimately, the lesson of giving is about humility and genuine compassion. It is about creating an environment where others feel empowered to accept help without feeling diminished. By embodying this spirit of generosity, we not only honor those we assist but also align ourselves more closely with the teachings of Christ. Let us strive to give in a way that truly allows others to take, fostering a community built on mutual respect and love.